Because in reality, no one does.
Not even our favourite high pony wearing singer and actress, Ariana Grande, who when received the 2018 Billboard Woman of the Year award, kept sh*t real:
“I want to say that I find it interesting that this has been one of the best years in my career and, like, the worst of my life,” Grande told the crowd at Pier 36 in New York City. “I’m not saying that for sympathy, I’m just saying that because I feel like a lot of people would look at someone in my position right now, I guess, like Woman of the Year, an artist that could be at her peak, like reaching her, you know, whatever, and think, ‘She’s really got her shit together, you know, like, she’s really on it, she’s got it all.’ I do, but as far as my personal life goes, I really have no idea what the fuck I am doing. So yeah, it’s been a very conflicting one. And I just want to say that if you’re someone out there who has no idea what this next chapter is going to bring, you’re not alone in that.”
And she is right. You aren’t alone in feeling that way it all. But at the very least, we can look like we do; so with that being said, here are some little things you can do to make you look, and feel, like you do in fact have your shit together.
Meal PrepBag Prep.
Keep your go-to handbag stocked with the necessities: A black pen, a few plasters, a portable charger for your phone, a hair-tie, and – if you live in London – a fold up brolly wouldn’t hurt too. Often dubbed Mary Poppins by my friends, my Longchamp is always fully stocked with the above, and more often than not a situation will arise where I, or someone that I am with, needs at least one of those items. Not only will it take five minutes one evening to put these items in your bag & never have to think about it again, but it will also save your ass when you’re running around the city and your phone hits 1%. Not to mention, being that friend that you are able to turn to when in need of something will earn you a reputation of being organised and reliable.
Make your bed.
Admiral William H. McRaven, ninth commander of the U.S Special Operations Command, gave a speech at The University of Texas Commencement ceremony in 2014 on 10 life lessons he had learned from basic SEAL training that is perhaps one of the greatest motivational speeches I have heard, and one that honed in on the importance of doing something as simple and mundane as making your bed in the morning:
“If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter. If you can’t do the little things right, you will never do the big things right. And, if by chance you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made — that you made — and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better. If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.”
Invest in a diary.
We backup our computers and our emails, right? Well you should do the same with your schedule and your contacts, and what better way to do that than to get yourself a diary. Old school – I know – but as helpful and glorious as technology is, it can’t always be relied on and I learned that the hard way when both my phone and my laptop died within hours of each other and I was left without a clue of my schedule and without my contacts. Not ideal. In hindsight, getting a diary has probably been one of the best investments I’ve made this year
Call it what you want, primping or attention to detail, but having your nails looking neat will always be a secret weapon to make you look put together. They don’t need to be painted, although that is half of the fun, but ensuring your hands are moisturised, your cuticles are neat and your nails are shaped makes all the difference in your overall appearance. Like they say: When you look good, you feel good!
Get a first aid kit.
Buy a first aid kit & keep it in your car. Hopefully this is something that you will hardly ever, if ever, reach for, but having it there and ready for any situation is literally the definition of having your shit together and being prepared.
Image Source: STIL, Brooke Cagle, Unsplash.